5 Apps That’ll Help You Get Over That Painful Breakup

In a modern era highly focused around technology, it only makes sense that we have digital solutions to life problems. Dealing with a breakup is no different. 

Sure, you can get over an ex using only analog means — disappear to a cabin in the woods without wi-fi; read print books and chop wood to get your frustrations out — but it’s worth considering what more modern inventions have to offer when it comes to your healing process. 

First things first, you should probably technologically unhook from your ex. Whether it’s mute, block, unfriend, or delete, do what you need to do to ensure they won’t be popping up on your phone or computer unexpectedly when you’re trying to unwind. There are a handful of apps designed to help with this kind of thing, but the functionalities available within most social media apps are really all you need. 

Next, here are five apps to help you get over your ex in a way that allows for growth, processing and self-improvement.

Downloading every single one won’t guarantee you a smooth path to getting over your breakup. And depending on what you’re struggling with the most, maybe you’ll only use one of them (or others might appear more useful at different stages of dealing with the breakup.

As long as you’re conscious that you need help, these will help get you on the right track. 


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For Motivation: Habitica

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Habitica

Details: Available for iOS and Android/free with in-app purchases
How it’ll help: Turning the boring day-to-day crap in your life into a game

In the wake of a difficult breakup, it can be hard to feel excited about things. You’re essentially going through a period of grief, mourning for the loss of not just another person but a version of yourself and the future you’d have together. Lots of guys don’t take that grief seriously, and then are surprised when they feel listless and unmotivated after a relationship ends. 

The best motivation is internal, but when you’re lacking that jump, external sources of motivation can be a godsend. That might be encouragement from a close friend or family member, or it could be an app — like Habitica, which uses the psychological principles of operant conditioning to make getting your daily tasks done a game rather than a chore, assigning you rewards for getting stuff done and dinging you for missing stuff. 

Check it out

For Workouts: Strava

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Strava

Details: Available for iOS (iPhone and Apple Watch)/free with in-app purchases or optional $5/month premium membership
How it’ll help: Giving you a positive goal to keep yourself occupied

It’s a bit of a cliché by now, but turning your frustrated feelings into workout energy is a useful post-breakup approach that can yield both mental and physical health benefits. Of course, people like to talk about a “revenge body” — getting into wicked shape right after a breakup in order to make your ex regret dumping you — but regular workouts are pretty much never a bad idea, and that much less so when you’re newly single, as you’ll need something productive to fill the time you used to spend with your ex. 

Strava is a great option here — it’s a GPS tracker to keep track of your running, jogging and cycling routes, but it has a social component, which, sort of like Habitica, can work to push you to work out more. Boasting a stunning 4.8 rating on the app store, it allows you to compete on leaderboards with friends, and try to set streaks of as many weeks of workouts in a row you can manage. 

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For Journaling: Diarium

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Diarium

Details: Available for iOS and Android & Mac and Windows/free with premium option ($4.99)
How it’ll help: Giving you an easy place to put your feelings down in words

Two of the best things to do after a breakup are creating and talking about your feelings, and journaling provides a means of hitting both of those birds with one stone, more or less. Of course, writing your feelings down can’t entirely replace talking about them — because you never get a response. But if you’re not ready for opening up to other people, pouring your heart out to a journal is a fantastic first step that can grant you very real catharsis. 

One of the best journaling apps out there today is Diarium. Not only does it allow you to safely and conveniently type down your thoughts, you can also take advantage of the app’s speech-to-text functionality to talk about your feelings if you don’t feel like using your fingers. It can send you prompt notifications if you want to be reminded to write regularly, and you can add photos and other media to fill out your entries. 

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For Therapy: BetterHelp

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BetterHelp

Details: Free to download on iOS and Android/cost ranges between $35 to $80 per week, but financial assistance is available (paid monthly) 
How it’ll help: Giving you a trained professional to talk you through your difficult period

The pandemic led to an absolute explosion in the popularity of digital means of therapy, and thank goodness. While there’s something to be said for making the trip to a therapist’s office, it’s not always feasible or convenient to do so, and e-therapy apps like BetterHelp allow you to derive the benefits of therapy without all of the obstacles or drawbacks. 

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The lower barrier to entry is also great if you, like many guys, don’t have a ton of therapy experience or were taught growing up that it’s for ‘crazy people’ rather than a useful tool for lots of different people, including ones going through difficult emotional periods. 

Check it out

For Getting Back Out There: Tinder

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Tinder

Details: Available for iOS and Android/free to download with in-app purchases and premium versions
How it’ll help: Reminding you that there are other fish in the sea waiting for you to meet

To be clear, throwing yourself immediately back into the dating pool long before you’ve processed your breakup is a move that’s likely to end badly. So maybe wait at least a few weeks for this one, if not a few months, depending on the length of the relationship in question. 

But Tinder is a hookup app, and most people don’t download it expecting to find long-term commitment. If a little no-strings-attached action will help break you out of your funk, this is the place to find it. Or maybe just swiping mindlessly through all the people on the app alone will help you come to terms with the fact that your ex wasn’t the only person for you, after all.  

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