There’s something I’ve been noticing that’s going on in our society .. It’s a real issue that’s leading toward an enormous amount of unhappiness for both parties involved in the situation .. it’s this concept of “assume culture.”
We’re in this place now where everyone just assumes that “they know” .. as if they have any idea what’s going on in someone else’s world just by looking!
So many are so quick to make judgements, and it’s a cancer. We’re assuming that our boss is this, or our leader is that, or our sister is this, or our dad has that… we somehow decide at scale now in society that we have it fucking terrible, but everybody around us — our siblings, our coworkers, our bosses, our teammates — that they have it so good, that they don’t have problems in their relationships, at work, financially, emotionally ..
We just sit here on a constant stream of assumptions and we deploy it so easily — hot takes, assumptions, judgements .. and it’s just fucked up and it’s really hurting you .. and it’s not putting things into perspective. I just really wish that we could curtail this a little bit.
We’ve got so many assumptions without any kind of actual truth or data behind it, and it’s leading to a lot of anxiety .. because if you think everyone else’s life is awesome and yours sucks, that’s sucky.. but if you realize everyone else has problems in their house too — in their mental house — then compassion and empathy come more naturally and the ability to say .. hey, everyone’s got some shit too and I’ve got a lot of good things going for me as well.
If you’re just locked in to that assumption, you have no ability to bounce back out and actually be grateful for what you do have and really enjoy what is working .. and so, this constant assumption that everyone’s got it so much better than you and you have it so bad .. it’s a lack of accountability and it’s a lazy kind of a framework that’s leading to your own unhappiness. So, your assumptions and hot takes and razzes that you’re dishing out to yourself or your inner circle aren’t making your life better or making those people’s lives any worse.
It’s time to change the script ..
I hope this helps somebody today!
By Gary ‘GaryVee’ Vaynerchuk – Founder and CEO of Vayner Media
