Today’s message is all about learning not to care what other people think!
At the beginning of this year, I set out on a mission to help as many people as possible learn not to care what others think of them. I believe there is real freedom when you practice this habit on a daily basis.
Let’s start here. My theory is:
- Most people attack, criticize, or judge other people (and things) which they don’t understand,
2. Most people attack, criticize, or judge other people (and things) that are different from what they’re used to
3. Most people attack, criticize, or judge other people (and things) that they are jealous of.
And when this happens, there is nothing much you can really do about it because it’s not about you in the first place. That person has told themselves a story in their head about you (and the world), and then they are overlaying that story onto you, or other people (and things).
It’s really important to remember that hurt people are the ones who hurt other people. Healthy people want to see others grow. So when someone is judging, criticizing, or attacking you, they’re indirectly telling you that they’re hurt, or are in pain, in some way.
It’s also important to remember that as humans, we just want to be loved, valued, respected, and accepted by other people. As a result, most of us then truly hold back from the things we want to do or say, and hold back from the life we want to live.
For me, the balance is being empathetic toward people (and not judge in return), but not give a shit what they think! When you combine not giving a shit with empathy, you gain a rare super power in this world.
In 2020, I made a lot of effort to practice the art of not caring what other people think about me. This is a daily practice, and it’s not a simple one. I certainly don’t want to do anything to harm anyone else and in fact, I want to do what I can to help people become better versions of themselves. But if people don’t play along or judge me in the process, that’s on them, not me. By doing this, I’m inevitably going to upset some people and that’s ok. It’s none of my business what those people think about me.
I hope you can equally use this mindset to break free from other people and their judgement. But don’t forget, this is a two-way street. I want you to become aware of how often you judge others just because they don’t fit a certain mold in your head.
What a beautiful world we will all live in when we live life on our terms, and free of what others think of us!
PS. I am hosting a FREE edition of my HAPPINESS webinar this Thursday at 12h30: https://event.webinarjam.com/channel/SSHappiness2